Unconditional love is something we all desperately needed from our caregivers as children. -Almost no one got it. Thank God we can learn to give ourselves this almost “magical” unconditional love.But what is unconditional self-love in...
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Why should a future super AI allow chaotic humanity to exist? Answers from an AI
What reason could AI have to show consideration for other living beings? In other words, what authentic reason, which is not linked to moral concepts of humans, could the AI have for wanting to do this out of its own logic? ChatGPT: Ah, so...
Which monster finally wants to make a positve contribution instead of frightening
Everyone has aspects of themselves that they find frightening, shameful, embarrassing or simply unacceptable. In 18 years as a coach, I have never met a "monster" that was not deeply rooted in pain, self-protection or fear. -No monster that didn't have a good...
How to make a difficult conversation safe
Spoiler: It’s not: „We need to talk.“ In every relationship- romantic or not - we will hit a point, where we have to tell the other person something, that might not feel harmonious. We might even expect them to feel hurt by it, confused or angry. How can we...
Be in a super good mood – in realistic jumps please!
Self-help gurus sometimes give the impression that we can jump from dejected to totally enthusiastic - with just one question! So even if I agree, of course, that intensive changes are possible and much quicker than most people realize... If we're feeling bad...
ENVY – where our gold is buried!
Why this is the case and how we get there: When we want something and don't (fully) admit it to ourselves because at the same time we believe (usually unconsciously) that we can't have it... this unpleasant, nasty feeling arises in our body... ENVY!The cool thing is -...
Are you innocent?
You are innocent. Feels WRONG? These are the reasons and ways to change it: As children we were often judged, condemned and shamed by our attachment figures. -Not out of bad intentions, but out of inability and not knowing better. But what does that entail? We didn't...
We must allow anger, hate, envy and revenge!
We have to allow ourselves the full range of emotions (internally)! Otherwise we are dangerous for our fellow human beings! Why? Because as humans we carry all emotions as responses to situations and memories and these can be activated. But if we pretend that we never...
24 hours unplugged #digital detox
When was the last time you gave yourself 24 hours off? Free from your computer, your phone (and your tablet)?Switched off the router for 24 hours?Free from external impulses... without a to-do list, emails, films, music, text messages, news threads, ...A matrix break....
What can we do if we suddenly shrink? #parts takeover, NLP, parts work
Almost everyone knows that... A seemingly harmless comment from a co-worker, criticism from the boss or a reproachful look from a spouse... and suddenly we feel much smaller or become very angry inside... Sometimes we react much more strongly than we actually want....